Don’t Yuck My Yum.

0111-01

The clock struck 1/1/11.

What more evidence do we need that the way we live our lives gets to start over? We face fresh slates and new windows. In an instant, all of last year’s excuses related to the economy, lack of time, family pressure and “I’ll get to it later” are no longer valid. We have a somewhat blind sense of optimism and we begin living anew. All that said, unless you made the hard decisions to drive change for your life, nothing will really change. The pressure will soon mount, the weight will soon be gained, the time will soon evaporate, the money will soon be spent and the excuses will soon appear.

One of the most pressing issues is living the life one truly wants to live. To be someone who gets more from life through giving and to be the busy person who somehow finds the time to check more things off the wish list. We all seem to realize this, but lose the will to make a difference down the road. What holds us back from giving, doing, caring and being all we can be? Why does it take a resolution to get us going? With such procrastination, it’s no wonder our dreams take so long to become reality.

It doesn’t have to be this way. We should expect more. Why not start today? I am going to – and choose to use this forum to ask for accountability partners to help me along the way.

I am going to lose weight. Not the lose for half the year and gain back the other half. The lasting kind. I’m tired of stretchy pants and want to live as long as I can with the people I love.

I am going to be more present. I want to fully appreciate the blessings we have and always have the perspective to realize they are blessings.

I am going to live “off-line” more. Digital connectivity drives personal disconnection too often. I will be more aware of that (though still respond when Jordan calls!)

I am going to eliminate “should haves”. I intend to live even more as the role model I wish my kids to see me as, which is earned and not just gifted.

I am going to help the world move forward. There may be some big steps and some small steps, but no wasted steps.

I am going to not let anyone “yuck my yum.” I will have the will and attitude to make sure 2011 is the most prosperous year yet – in all senses of the word.

Happy New Year to all. I wish for you a fresh start on all you wish to be.

Trust Me. Trust Me Not.

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In this day and age, nobody knows whom to trust. This is a sad state of affairs. Sadder still, they have reason.

Everything in life seems to have a catch. We pay a reduced price for our plane ticket, but an increased price for our bags? We sign up for free checking, but then get an invoice for the checks. We say goodbye to Blockbuster late fees only to say hello to restocking fees. We sign up for unlimited text plans only to get texts to say we are over our limits. The reality is that we live in a nickel and dime society filled with gimmicks and gotchas and lost leaders.

Society is hard wired for the negative narrative. For every voice, there is a flow of opposing voices that are 99x as strong. We love a good train wreck, celebrity breakdown or rehab admission. We say we are searching for purpose, but our minds are entranced with the likes of Ponzi schemes, financial bailouts and the like. We look at people like Bernie Madoff, Osama Bin Laden and even George W. through a paparazzi’s lens as if they were the newest movie villains that get far more press than the superheroes that are supposed to protect us (admit it – Madoff does look a bit like a modern day Penguin!)

It all makes sense actually. We’ve been burned. We’ve seen behind the curtain. We are constantly reminded of the problems that diminish our need for hope. Just look how fast the mighty Obama train came off the tracks. He was hired by our hearts and emotions, but will soon get fired by our brutal swords and the reality that solving problems is harder than just saying “Yes We Can!” Once we see a cloud of darkness, the natural reaction is to gain validation of the dark instead of information to protect the light.

As a brand marketer, it is easy to say we should just steer our clients to relevant, meaningful and believable platforms. Meaning, we should make sure our brands tell the absolute truth and that, in doing so, people will have reason to trust them. In our complex society of self-publishing, the truth no longer sets us free because consumers can adopt and edit their own version of the truth. As we continue to guide our brands, we should be careful in making sure the promise is plausible (not overselling or being too extreme) and that facts should always be balanced with emotion to give people a reason to feel better.

Success lies not about what you say, but rather what they choose to hear. You can trust me on that.

Cages or Wings?

Cages or Wings?
We all get to choose how we live our lives. We all wake up each day and decide what we do, how we treat others and how we see the world. Some days my “Inner Uppie” thinks I can be Atlas to lift the world’s optimism while other days I can feel kicked in the head and as off center as anybody. It all comes down to perspective – a choice between cages or wings. Which do you prefer?

Those who choose wings are inspired with the freedom to fly. Those who choose cages are simply more comfortable with the stability of conformity. Neither is bad, but I cannot help but wonder if those who surround themselves with safe cages have ever really allowed themselves to fly. If so, and if they have experienced their full potential, how can anyone be satisfied with anything less ever again? If only birds could speak and share their wisdom, as they experience both.

Flying lets you realize that you are doing the very best you can. Flying lets you go places, see things and feel sensations that others can only dream of. Flying lets us see life through eyes of appreciation, not just comparison. People who fly seem to live their lives fearlessly – and always looking forward. I love that.

What are you waiting for? If it is for a person who will carry you up 34,000 feet, you will never soar. Every one of us can decide to fly right now. Why be the person who perpetuates darkness when you can add light to the world? Start with yourself. It will naturally spill over to your family, friends and whoever plays on your team.

Doing so will not likely create world peace today. Nor will it cure famine tomorrow or rebuild Haiti the next day or cap an oil leak by this weekend. It will not solve the unemployment crisis, the economic crisis, the AIDS crisis, the political crisis or any other crises that cages our society…at least not today. Yet it’s that kind of thinking and human energy that just might make all those things possible.

Cages feel safe, but they keep us still. Flying moves us all forward.

Spread your wings.

La la la la la la la

0510-life
Where are the prophets of today? Who are the people that help shape how we feel, what we think and how we should look at the world and our lives? I would suggest that we look no further than inside our iTunes playlists for the answer. The singers, songwriters and hip hop artists may just be the prophets of today. Recently, I came across an older song from Jason Mraz that reminded me just how wonderful life is and why the things that don’t always feel great are just part of the wonderful journey of life. Is it the first time I ever realized this stuff? No, but the magic of the song, to me, is that it makes me feel blessed and happy every single time I hear it. I hope it does the same for you!

Life is Wonderful.
It takes a crane to build a crane
It takes two floors to make a story
It takes an egg to make a hen
It takes a hen to make an egg
There is no end to what I’m saying
It takes a thought to make a word
And it takes some words to make an action
It takes some work to make it work
It takes some good to make it hurt
It takes some bad for satisfaction

La la la la la la la life is wonderful
Ah la la la la la la life goes full circle
Ah la la la la la la life is wonderful

It takes a night to make it dawn
And it takes a day to make you yawn brother
And it takes some old to make you young
It takes some cold to know the sun
It takes the one to have the other

And it takes no time to fall in love,
But it takes you years to know what love is
It takes some fears to make you trust
It takes those tears to make it rust
It takes the dust to have it polished

La la la la la la la life is wonderful
Ah la la la la la la life goes full circle
Ah la la la la la la life is wonderful

It takes some silence to make sound
It takes a loss before you found it
And it takes a road to go nowhere
It takes a toll to make you care
It takes a hole to make a mountain

La la la la la la la life is wonderful

May these words by Jason, and my wishes for peace and love, help make you realize your life is, indeed, wonderful as well.